I've known for a little while now that if I am to have a really nice life and achieve loads of the things I want to, I will have to let go of a massive load of fear.
Fear is useful sometimes, it keeps us from doing potentially dangerous things, such as... "I reckon I can climb up that building". I think fear is a reaction, that prompts us into doing things, or seizes us into not.
But it seems to not work logically sometimes. For instance, you'd really like to ask out this girl, but you're too shit-scared to. You might have even gone through the 'worst that could possibly happen' analogy, and your rational side knows that it's a possible win for the cost of nothing - but the fear keeps on pumping.
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What I am not trying to get to is, "Face everything you fear!", because in reality, there are a lot of rational fears. So by facing everything, would that mean go and wrestle a fully grown tiger? It would, so no, do not face everything. Instead, face everything you don't want to fear.
However, you have to be wise in which fears you want to conquer. I would say I am a bit more frightened crossing the road than the normal person, and I want to become that little bit less frightened; but how do I know if I've gone too relaxed about it (and may get knocked over)? It's a judgement call I believe, one that relies a lot on wisdom.
Examples of fear restricting people and their lifes
A person who:
loves animals, but can't get a pet dog because of a phoebia
doesn't make many friends because they fear rejection
can't enjoy sun-bathing properly because they fear wasps
Ways to get over fear in general
You could just push yourself more each day to be brave. But a way of you not forgetting about your mission would be to join an extreme sport perhaps.
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